Recently, a good friend of mine Terrell Mims posted about the importance of words and how they could make an impact on our lives, small or large. It’s an awesome post, check it out here.
After reading his post, I took it a step further and commented that mindset can also impact you and those around you.
Jump ahead a few days and I’m in the middle of desperately trying to catch up on my craft classes. I’m taking three at the moment. Yikes!
Anyway, so this particular class is an online course taught by none other than Bob Mayer. In it, he teaches us the tenets of becoming a successful writer. Check out the information on his Warrior Writer workshops here.
So, here I am, trying to be a good pupil, when I zero in on what Bob is telling me. First he says when people fail to achieve their goals, it is because they have allowed fear to rule them.
Ok, that makes sense.
Then he asks, “How willing are you to change? Are you willing to learn from any source that helps you improve yourself? If you are not where you want to be, then you must change, rather than waiting for the world to come to you. Because guess what? It isn’t.”
What do you mean I have to change? Are you saying that if I sit here long enough, someone won’t walk by with the answers to all of my problems wrapped up in a little box with a neat bow?
And then he hit me.
First, he smacked me in the back of the head with “To change, you have to be willing to say the three hardest words for many people, I am wrong.” Then, he followed it with a jarring slap to the face with, “You must be willing to surrender.”
You must be willing to surrender.
You must be willing to say, “I am wrong.”
So here is where Fear and Change come in.
We humans all have fears. Many of us fear change.
I, for one, have fear not of failure itself, but of allowing myself to fail. I’m sure there is an even deeper meaning there, but I haven’t gotten to that layer within myself yet. It’s a damn good thing I’m stubborn!
Going back to Terrell’s post, the words we use and the mindset we have are direct connections to the things we fear and the changes we need to make. An example would be that negative person who almost always sees the glass half empty. When you, being the loving and positive person you are, try to encourage this person and offer suggestions or advice, they usually have an excuse as to why this suggestion or that piece of advice won’t work.
Me thinks someone’s a fraidy cat.
Mr. or Ms. Negative is most likely afraid. Of losing control. Of being wrong. Of letting go. Who knows, could be anything, but fear is at the heart of it. And so, this fear triggers their mindsets, making them negative which in turn causes everything they say to be negative.
Perhaps, if they start from the opposite end, they could achieve that change without falling apart or hurting themselves. They could put positive spins on things rather than negative. A simple, “good morning” with a smile goes a long way. You’d be surprised how much your day can brighten with something as small as that. Those two words can have a powerful impact on a person’s mindset.
The more Mr. or Ms. Negative’s mindset changes for the better, the more aware they become of their words and their actions, and naturally the more positive and uplifting they will be all around.
And then, I’m guessing, being able to say, “I am wrong,” won’t be so hard.
Just a guess.
So now I want to know what all of you think about this. What do you fear? Are you open to change? What obstacles have you had to overcome in order to achieve change in your life?